My fiance and I are pretty much "hosting" our wedding & reception, however my mom has considerably helped us financially, but not my dad. My fiance's grandparents (both sets)--but not his parents--have also helped, but we feel bad isolating those who have contributed, because then everyone will know who did and who didn't help host. At the same time, we don't want to completely leave out those who have helped us. Is it ok on a formal invitation to say,"[our names] together/along with their families request the honour of your presence..."???
My other question is that we are trying to save a bit on the postage, is it ok to ask our guests to rsvp online on the reception card? OR In lieu of a reception card, can we include a response card and note the reception on the invitation? Our reception will be immediately following the ceremony in the church's reception hall.
Please help! We are both confused!!
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Feb 26, 2005, 4:38 PM
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Re: [michita79] Invitation wording and RSVPs
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Dear Invitation wording,
Because your mother has contributed so much and his grandparents have also, it would be best to word these as if they are hosting. This is not necessary, but is best. You can also mention your father also. This is easily done without it appearing as if he is hosting. You may issue your invitations and include your family's names too.
You may simply include a response card and include the reception info on the wedding invitation, just say, "and following" after the wedding information.
RSVP 'on line' is relatively new and is becoming acceptable except for formal weddings. You may want to include land information also. For the most formal weddings a response card that is returned was never used in the past. The guests were expected to know how to write a formal response letter. So, you choose what you need to do in this case.
So, here are your options:
This is the most cumbersome, but correct according to who is contributing.
Invitation wording and RSVPs
