Invites sent, someone calling to ask if they can bring a guest
Okay, I invited my cousin, who doesn't come to any family functions whatsoever! I haven't seen her in over a year and I have no idea what she is doing with herself.
I sent her an invitation b/c I had to. She is in her early 20's and I sent the invitation to her only without a guest. Now my aunt is calling me to ask if my cousin can bring a date. I think this is in poor taste and really puts me on the spot.
I am already over my budget and cannot afford for her to bring a date, especially because I never see her. Not only that, if I could have afforded it, I would have put "and guest" on her invitation.
Am I wrong? How do I respond to this? It really makes it an uncomfortable situation for me and I think it's very rude to call and ask me that.
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Aug 11, 2008, 3:40 PM
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Re: Invites sent, someone calling to ask if they can bring a guest
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You really should only invite those you are close with; those you see and with whom you have a relationship. But, the invitation has gone out so we cannot do anything about that.
It is rude to ask to bring a guest, agreed. So, just explain to your aunt that (little white lie here) although you'd love to be able to allow cousin susie to bring a date, your guest list/room size/seating just will not allow for any additional guests, sorry. No mention of money or being able to afford to feed more guests is proper or needed. That will only give your aunt something to argue. Telling her that there will be no seats or that the venue has a limited occupancy should end the discussion. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Invites sent, someone calling to ask if they can bring a guest
