Inviting family to wedding who are unaware we are gay
We are a gay couple planning a destination wedding (out of necessity) for next year. She doesn't want to invite any extended family, but I would like to invite some of my father's siblings that I am more close to. Of course it would be rude to invite some of his siblings and not others (he has a lot) and to completely ignore my mother's side of the family so I feel obligated to invite them as well. My issue here is that many of these family members aren't even aware that we are gay couple or that I have been in a relationship for several years. Those family members I am close to know, of course, but I have avoided the subject with some simply because they are very religious and/or close-minded on the issue. Overall, I am just uncomfortable inviting people to our wedding that I know will just judge us and not celebrate with us as they have for my cousins.
Should I forget about inviting extended family all together or invite them all with the understanding that the save the date card may be the equivalent of me "coming out" to them? Or in this situation is it appropriate to invite only select members of my extended family?
Thanks
(This post was
edited by TWQadmin on May 20, 2009, 12:14 PM)
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Post #2 of 2
(302 views)
Re: Inviting family unaware that we are a couple?
[In reply to]
Dear Copper,
It is perfectly all right to invite some extended family and not all, as we all are closer to some family members and not others. But, it is best to "come out" to the others before sending the save the dates if you decide to invite them.
Inviting family to wedding who are unaware we are gay
