I read on a web site devoted to addressing and assembling wedding invitations that it is not in good taste to include a meal selection choice on the response card and that the venue should know how to estimate the number of fish selections versus the number of beef selections. But, my wedding venue has requested that I provide them with this information. Is it truly in bad taste to have a meal choice on the response card?
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Dear Kathy,
In the past, it was viewed as in poor taste. For the truly very formal wedding, we would probably not include meal selections. But, because of necessity, many have resorted to doing this. It isn't so terribly wrong and I have offered advice on how to do it as politely as possible for years now.
If this is so horribly improper, then we should also consider the use of response cards are as well. These were not considered polite for many years. It was considered an insult, as if we considered our guests ignorant--that they didn't know how to write a formal response.
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Thank you Rebecca. I am happy to know that this is now considered acceptable. Could you suggest some tactful wording on how to ask this question and identify which guest (in the case of two people being invited) gets which meal selection?
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I'm sure we have answered this question before, so it is best to read those responses.
This is supposed to be a very simple card. So, you would just have the selections listed with a space for a number. This is the head count for your caterer. It is best to keep track of how many guests requested what from which family, so you can give this to your caterer, which they compare to your seating chart. Then they can simply use your seating chart to know how many people at table requested a certain type of meal. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Meal selection on wedding response card?
