My fiance' and I are paying for our wedding and reception since my family is financially unable to do so. I have been extremely busy and very worried about getting everything right since I haven't really had any help with any of the planning details. After typing several proofs for the invitation wording I thought we had finally decided on what we wanted printed. I had specifically told my fiance' that the last proof I showed him was the final proof that would be turned in for printing and to make sure it looked correct to him before I turned it in. He looked over it and said it was fine. I also had a few other people look at it as well. After the invitations came back from the printer, he then mentioned the fact that they didn't have him listed as Dr. First Name Last Name. (He's an M.D.) I feel terrible but I just didn't catch it I guess with so many things on my mind. Now he says that because I showed him so many proofs he didn't really pay attention. I've already heard one message from a friend of his commenting on the wording. I feel stupid and I know this reflects on me and not "us." Do I need to send out a statement commenting on the mistake or just forget about it since after it's over maybe everyone will forget? His family and many of their friends are professionals and I feel like they think I'm a complete idiot.
coach4couples
COUPLES COUNSELOR
Jan 9, 2005, 9:42 PM
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Re: [anmoon320] Mistake on Invitation
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Dear one,
What you describe is a challenging situation, to say the least. And, I'm not talking about your invitation boo boo. I'm much more concerned with your sense of inferiority, and your fears around needing to do it all perfectly and right, and all on your own.
I highly recommend that you connect with your fiance and do a simple 4 step process to approach this situation as a couple. Use the invitations as a spring board to address your communication styles, your beliefs, and your ways of handling pressure, mistakes, and projects. This is a great opportunity to get to know each other better, and to learn. I always look at mistakes as the best way for people to learn. Here's the process -- simply ask these questions and see what you discover:
1. What happened?
2. What worked?
3. What did not work? Why?
4. What did I learn?
-- then, determine how to correct quickly, as a couple, and start from there and have the planning be a different, enjoyable experience from this time forward.
Blessings to you both! Emily Bouchard, MSSW, Life Coach, Speaker, and Trainer
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 10, 2005, 10:20 AM
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Re: [anmoon320] Mistake on Invitation
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As for the etiquette involved and if you should send another note, please don't. Your guests just need to know who is getting married, when, and where. Please don't worry.
Mistake on Invitation
