My name was not on the wedding invitation - am I invited to this wedding
My boyfriend of 10 years, and father to my 2 children was recently asked to serve as an usher at his long-time friend's wedding.
I know his friend, though I would consider him more my boyfriend's friend, and not OUR friend. It's not that we don't get along, it's just that over the years, they've drifted apart and rarely see one another, and mostly keep in touch via email. I've never met the bride.
The invitation came today. Addressed to my Boyfriend. No "And Guest"...no mention of me either directly or indirectly anywhere on the invitation. I know they know I exist. We live together and have kids together----we're not THAT out of touch!
I'm not at all sure what proper etiquette is in this case. If they don't want to invite me due to seating issues, etc, it doesn't hurt my feelings, though I am admittedly surprised by the omission. But if I am interpreting the invite incorrectly, and don't go, I don't want to appear rude or like I'm snubbing them, either. I'm afraid if we ask them for clarification, it'll either put them on the spot, embarrass them, or seem like we're irritated that I was excluded.
My question is: With how the invitation was addressed, should I assume I am not invited to this wedding?
FYI: MY boyfriend is as perplexed as I am
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Re: [Christine74] My name was not on the wedding invitation - am I invited to this wedding
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Dear Christine,
Bravo on your consideration of them--not wanting to put them on the spot. And, this is why, typically, I suggest not asking. It does put them on the spot and in a difficult situation.
From the sound of it, it appears as if you are not invited. But, this is not proper. You should be invited to the rehearsal dinner and the wedding/reception as well. So, it may be best for your boyfriend to ask his friend, in private, if there is a mistake.
My name was not on the wedding invitation - am I invited to this wedding
