I am in need of a way to word that my guest have to bring their on liquor to my wedding as we are only having Beer, soda and possibly a Fuzzy Navel Fountain. The hall where we are having my reception doesn't have a bar so I can't put open bar. They only have the taps for the beer. The reason I would like to add this to my invitations is so that if someone would like a mixed drink they know that they have to bring their own liquor. Please I hope I can get some good advice on how to word it possibly even the exact words to put on my Enclosure cards!
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Jul 19, 2007, 6:55 PM
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Re: [Bride2Be102007] Need wording help!
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What you are suggesting is that you want to host a wedding but have your guests provide their own refreshments - not polite, sorry. We cannot help you word an improper invitation.
If all you can offer is beer on tap then that is what you offer. If you want to offer more, then as host, you should provide it. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
No that is not what I mean. I have heard of it being done several times but I'm not sure how the worded it. I have ask some of my guest and they don't think that that is tacky at all. They think there is nothing wrong with doing it that way at all. So I am only asking How I should put it on my Enclosure card that has all the reception information on it. Our reception is 6 hours long and if that one person would like Captain and Coke to drink instead of beer they may bring the Captain to add to the coke that has already been supplied for him. We don't know what everyone drinks so that is why we are doing it this way so that everyone that chooses to have a mixed drink may do so. Our wedding is very Elegant but simple so please do not get the wrong impression at all.
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Jul 20, 2007, 9:15 AM
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We never ask guests to provide anything for the party so what you intend to do is not proper and we cannot guide you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 20, 2007, 12:11 PM
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I completely agree. There is no 'elegant' way or any other way to state: BYOB on wedding invitations. This is not done. If you have heard of it done, then it was done by someone who doesn't know any better. And, if your friends don't tell you that they consider it tacky, it is because they are your friends. It is considered tacky and not polite.
Please don't do this. Provide the entire party, as you are the host. If the venue does not have a bar, then you can provide it. If you cannot afford it, then provide the alcohol you can. Only providing beer and a signature mixed drink is probably fine.
We both understand that you don't mind your guests bringing their preferred alcohol. But, there is no polite way to mention it on invitations. When you mention it, it is stating that you want your guests to bring the party. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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