We are looking at having a very small wedding, with most guests being friends of B & G. Pressure from MoB to invite her sisters (and accompanying spouses/families). Problem is, B does not like said relatives and does not want them there! To give an idea of numbers, inviting these same relatives would roughly double the guest list (assuming none were excluded).
One added wrinkle - groom's extended family live overseas, and we would like to send invites as a courtesy but truly doubt any will actually attend (due to cost, illness, distance).
So now we'd be faced with (possibly) inviting groom's extended family based on them not attending, and NOT inviting MoB's family based on the fact that they MAY WELL attend (and aren't wanted!)...
Help!
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May 7, 2007, 7:09 PM
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Only invite the guests the two of you want to attend. Discuss it and come to a conclusion together. Never send invitations expecting or hoping the recipient won't attend. You're sure to wind up with unwanted guests and a wedding that is larger than you want. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree with the notion of not inviting anyone that you don't actually want to attend. But how do we deal with a very insistent MoB? And what of inviting relatives from only the groom's side, not the bride's? (which would of course only increase the MoB's unhappiness)
Thanks
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May 8, 2007, 10:41 AM
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Just remind the MOB whose wedding it is. The couple creates the guest list. It is unfortunate that the bride doesn't care for her aunts. But, it isn't uncommon.
It may appear lopsided for the MOB, though, with his family present and not hers. So, perhaps there shouldn't be as many of his invited. But, again this is the couple's decision.
Not inviting family?
