My fiance and I prefer to have an adult wedding. The reception is formal, in the evening, and will have an open bar. The food is not particularly kid friendly either.
I have no nieces or nephews and no young close family members. No one in the entire bridal party (16 people) have any children. The reason for the no children rule (in addition to the type of event) is that we do not want our cousins bringing their children who we do not know or have never even met (this would total to about 30-50 children).
However, my fiance does have a Sister who is in the wedding who will be traveling from across the country to attend. Her 2 children are the only children we are close to (they lived with my fiance for some time) and would love for them to attend (we only get to see them once a year now).
Is it wrong to state on our invites that it is an adult reception, but then to allow these 2 children to attend (even though no other nieces and nephews exist and all of our siblings and first cousins will be invited)? Can we just explain (if asked) that the children are the grooms niece and nephew & live far away, and that the brides siblings have no children, so no other children were invited?
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Re: [IansGirl] Only Invite 2 Children to adult only reception
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You would never write "adult only" on a wedding invitation. You would simply not include the names of the children on the inner envelope.
However, you should note that inviting some children and not inviting others tends to insult many parents. Personally, my opinion is that unless you are close with any individual, child or adult, they shouldn't be invited. But, your cousins may feel differently. If you're not close with the cousins, don't invite them at all. That could solve your problem completely. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. Good advice! Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Sep 18, 2007, 2:35 PM
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Thank you so much for your quick response!!! I am planning on putting "Adult cocktail reception immediately following ceremony" on the insert with all the reception venue information on it, in addition to only listing the adults' name on the inner envelope. Is this inappropriate?
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Yes, mentioning adults only is inappropriate. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Only Invite 2 Children to adult only reception
