My boyfriend of 8 years and I have begun to talk about getting married. So as to try to make things go more smoothly once the actual planning starts, we wanted to get one issue settled up front. We do not want one couple (who are my parents' good friends) to attend the wedding. These people were important in my life more than 10 years ago, and haven't been since then. We really want our wedding to be just about people we love and care about and don't plan on inviting very many people. My parents are very, very upset about this, say that we're not having any respect for them, and say that the parents of the bride and groom should be able to make up lists of who they would like to invite. This is really causing a problem in what should be a happy time. What do you think about this situation? Did we do the right thing in bringing it up early on?
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May 24, 2008, 8:50 AM
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Re: [sweetpea3] Question about not inviting parents' friends
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Holiday Weekend - As always, please search the forum for your answer while you wait for a reply. I think you'll find this question answered elsewhere. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 24, 2008, 4:28 PM
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Dear Sweetpea,
Yes, this has been answered very many times.
Traditionally, the guest list would be split evenly between the bride and groom's parents. Recently, the list was split into three equal parts divvied up between both sets of parents and one to the couple. Today, parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings. This also means that they do not invite or plan. It isn't the social event for parents it once was. So, their friends don't have to be invited unless they are your close friends as well.
It is always a nice gesture to offer a few seats to them if you are able though.
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