Please help! I invited 200+ people to my wedding. I sent out save-a-dates 9 months prior to the wedding to make sure that all of my out-of-towners/co-workers could plan for it. I sent the invitations 8 weeks prior. We are 3 weeks out and it looks like only 96 people will be attending. I have a minimum at my reception location of 140 people. Is it poor etiquette to send last minute invites to other people? There are friends and co-workers that I did not originally invite because I was concerned that I would go over the number. I never expected only 50% of my guests to attend. I will have to pay for 140 guests regardless of whether or not they show. I would rather spend the money and have people attend, rather than spend the money and have all of the plated dinners go to waste. Please let me know your thoughts on this. I definitely don't want to disrespect anyone and make them feel like they were an afterthought!
Thanks,
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Aug 27, 2007, 10:15 AM
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Re: [Catrobinson99] Sending Last Minute Wedding Invitations
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Dear Catrobinson,
Typically it is impolite because they will know that they weren't originally invited. So, it is best if you just tell them that you wanted to invite them in the first place. But, thought you didn't have room and now you find that you do and would really want them there. This you would do verbally as soon as possible and then send them an invitation. You just may have many more attend who just didn't mail in their RSVPs though. There are many who do not know how to be a good guest.
Sending Last Minute Wedding Invitations
