Sending a wedding invitation to groom's estranged father
Here's our problem:
My soon-to-be husband's parents have been divorced for years and he hasn't heard from his father in quite some time. Neither my fiance nor his family are on good terms with his father.
Should he still be included in the wedding announcement and invited to the wedding? I'm hearing both sides: that we don't have to invite him, but also, according to tradition and etiquette, it's proper to invite him.
I don't want to burn any bridges with his father by not extending an invitation, in the case that a reconciliation happens down the road. However, I also don't want to make my fiance (and the rest of his family) uncomfortable on our wedding day.
Thank you in advance for your help!
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edited by Prov31Bride on Oct 10, 2007, 12:37 PM)
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Oct 10, 2007, 12:27 PM
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Re: [Prov31Bride] Sending a wedding invitation to groom's sstranged father
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Dear Prov,
He doesn't have to be included on the announcements. In fact, no parents have to be listed. But, if he is invited to the wedding, it may be best to include his name on those announcements sent to his side of the family (optional).
He doesn't have to be invited to the wedding if he isn't part of your fiance's life. However, it may be best to if your fiance feels that he may want him in his life in the future. Missing a son's wedding is major, or at least should be, and he could be hurt by his exclusion.
But, the bottom line here is that it is your fiance's choice. He needs to ponder this issue carefully and with much thought of the future and consideration of everyone's feelings.
Sending a wedding invitation to groom's estranged father
