Sent save-the-date invitation to couple, then they broke up
Hello,
First may I just say how much I adore this site. There is such good advice on here and it is so helpful. Thank you for all your time spent.
My FH has a cousin, and he had been with his girlfriend for over 10 years. They lived together, they shared the best years of their lives with each other. When we sent our save-the-dates, we addressed it to both of them.
Since then, they have broken up. It came as a shock to everybody, and it ended badly.
I feel like it would be very awkward to send an invitation to his ex-girlfriend (even though the save-the-date had her name on it), as she is no longer in contact with the family and does not wish to be. Even if I did send her an invitation, she probably wouldn't come anyway. But, what if she did? The cousin has a new girlfriend, who may be invited with him (provided they're still together, of course) which would increase the awkwardness if the ex actually came.
Am I wrong for not sending her an invitation? She was being invited because she was in a relationship with the cousin. I'm trying to put myself in her shoes, and if I got an wedding invitation from an ex's family member, that would feel weird to me. I can't really call her because she is out of contact, and I don't know her new address.
Please let me know if it would be impolite to not send her an invite. Thanks!
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Re: [thatashleychick] Sent save-the-date invitation to couple, then they broke up
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Dear Thatashleychick,
Thank you for the compliment. We do try.
This is the one exception to the, "send invitations to all those who receive save the dates," rule. She was his 'guest' or escort. He is the invitee.
Sent save-the-date invitation to couple, then they broke up
