We received an rsvp from an out of state guest who is the Mother of one of the groomsmen in my daughter's wedding. The invitation was addressed to "Mr. and Mrs." only. The "Mrs." rsvp'd with her name and "guest". Apparently her husband is not coming and she is making the trip alone and is staying with a friend in our town and decided to invite this friend. Neither the groom or my daughter know this friend of this woman, and I find this quite odd that she would add this person as a guest without first asking. Apparently she feels she can freely invite someone in her husband's place.
While I understand she may want to bring someone with her, at the same time I feel we could be accommodating another guest (that we know) in this person's place. How should this be handled without offending this person?
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edited by MOB07 on Oct 16, 2007, 7:49 PM)
It is unfortunate that she doesn't know that she shouldn't invite her own guests. But, it doesn't seem to be such a huge problem, as your daughter and her fiance already offered the family two seats and she is only using two.
If your daughter and her fiance really feel that they do not want this person here, they or you could call her and let her know that only those invited may attend.
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Thank you for your help. My daughter and her fiance decided it was best to just let it be since she will not be using any additional seats beyond the two we allotted for the family. I am amazed though at how many people do not understand wedding guest etiquette.
Isn't it amazing. And, it isn't just wedding etiquette that some do not know or wish to know. It is very unfortunate, because etiquette is just the 'rules' we all deem important. It is what makes us appear to be socially savvy. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
You have no idea how much of this we see here. And....many times people think, and say, etiquette is antiquated. But, as you've experienced, etiquette is in place to spare people's feelings and to make those around us comfortable. It's really a shame that more people don;t care. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Uninvited guest on rsvp
