Greetings, this forum looks helpful so I thought I would give it a try, this is my first post and have a few questions, if anyone could help I would appreaite that alot.
My situation I am currently in doesn't make it easy for me, I am currently in the Marine Corp deployed in Iraq right now, I want to marry my Girlfriend when I come home in Sept time frame, we are planning on doing a courthouse marriage at first, then in June of 2008 we will do our wedding. She wants to send out a formal card of sort to let people know we got married and send the invitations at the same time. My question would be wording on such a thing, ideas, and help would be helpful right now as I only have access to the internet so if anyone could point me in the right direction i would greatly appreaciate it right now.
Thank you.
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Jul 2, 2007, 6:21 PM
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I feel for you and appreciate your position but what you're planning just isn't appropriate. The wedding cannot be done in the courthouse and then done again later. Once you're married, you' married. However, if you feel like you want to b married now, and you just cannot wait to have the wedding and reception all on the same day, you could get married now and then have a blessing of your marriage in church, if you want a spiritual ceremony or you could host a reception later when you get back to the states. But, a blessing of the marriage is not a wedding nor is a vow renewal so please choose wisely. We get a lot of letters here from couples who regret not waiting and having the wedding they always dreamed of.
The wording would be different for whatever type of event you choose so, once you decide, please come back and ask again.
I wish you a safe return home and thank you for your sacrifice for our country. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Yanni123
Jul 2, 2007, 7:29 PM
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Thank you for the fast response and advice, with being in the Military my options are pretty limited to where if we didn't get married she would have to stay in florida and me stay in california, we were already planning on getting married just now pushing the date up so we can be together/save up for the wedding. If we did do a courthouse marriage in Sept, could we do a renewal of vows in June? Is the renewal of vows the same concept of a wedding, where she would get to walk down the ile and still say I do and all. If it was a renewal of vows, would it be a good idea to let people know we got married in Sept and how to go about that.
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Jul 2, 2007, 7:33 PM
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I'm sorry but nothing replaces the wedding. If you want to be together now, then have the wedding now. If you can't have the wedding now then wait to be together. Sometimes in life we must make descisions and choices - we can't always have it all. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 2, 2007, 7:48 PM
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I agree completely. It may be best for you to marry and then have a reception later. This is appropriate. If you decide to do this, you would send reception invitations to your guests eight weeks before you wish to host it. If some may need to travel, it may be best to send save the date cards at least six months before the event.
These are not invitations. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jul 2, 2007, 7:53 PM
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Right, but with this option, your fiance will not be wearing a wedding dress and walking down the aisle. Please keep all of this in mind when deciding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 2, 2007, 10:39 PM
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Well I appreaciate the help, but we are doing the wedding in june like we planned and she will be wearing a wedding dress. Thank you. I'll ask questions else where.
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Jul 3, 2007, 10:01 AM
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If you ask elsewhere, anyone who understands etiquette should answer the same way. However, if you just want to do as you wish, and get that wish validated, then there are a lot of online forums where other people who don't care about, or follow, etiquette will surely support you. But remember, you asked about etiquette, so we gave the answer based on etiquette.
You can always do as you please since there are no etiquette police. Just know that your guests may not view what you're doing positively. They may never tell you (if they are polite, caring people) but they may think it.
Again, we all have choices to make and we can't always have everything just the way we want it. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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