What to write on inner envelopes of wedding invitations
I read through the posts and some other webpages, though, I can't seem to find the answer. On the inner envelopes, can I write anything on them and, if so, what do you suggest?
I understand that formally the proper way to address the inner envelope is to print the guests' names. I don't want to use the inner envelope fo that purpose. Can I use something different like, "You're Cordially Invited..." and then leave it like that?
I have a really big family and don't want to write the name of every person per household on the inner envelope. In my family, each household has about 8 kids who have another 8 kids.
Some of my relatives told me to send one invitation to one house addressing two separate families. For example, the front envelope says:
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Smith & Family
123 Road Street
Denver, Colorado
This is just an example of two families but one address on front of the envelope.
Now lets say Bob Smith has his wife and two kids (Sally and Mary) and Andrew Smith has his wife and two kids (Eric and Daniel). Daniel is married and Eric has a girlfriend. Lets say I only want Daniel's wife there and not Eric's girlfriend (who he's been dating for a week). So I would leave Eric's GF name out.
According to some other posts and other webpages, it says the innner envelope should say the names of each guest. So in this case it would look like this,
Inner Envelope...
Bob, Kristi, Sally and Mary
Andrew, Michelle, Eric, Daniel and Denise
But the list would be much longer. I don't know all the names and correct spelling, which is why I don't think its necessary for the names of each person to be put on the inner envelope (in my case). Also, the girlfriend part is irrelevant to me because everyone is welcome to come. I just added that in to show I understand the etiquette.
So, how should I word my inner envelopes?
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Re: Inner Envelopes Can I write anything?
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Dear July11,
I think you read some, but nothing in its entirety, as you have half of the rules here.
As host you should want to properly invite your guests and if you are using invitations with inner envelopes, these should be used correctly.
First off, those over 17/18 receive their own invitation. So, you wouldn't send an invitation to two different families at the same address. One exception is when there are two adults living together as a couple. Then their names would be written separately on the same invitation.
On the inner envelope, it would read: Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Under the couple's name you would write the children's names beginning with the oldest. For those who have special nick names you use, you could use those in place of the formal title and last name. For example: Uncle John and Aunt May.
We don't ever use the inner envelope as an invitation, including verbiage like "You're cordially invited... ."
What to write on inner envelopes of wedding invitations
