My partner and I really torn between having our wedding and reception at a place that we really love and inviting everyone, it is not about a matter of money (yet) just space. We have already talk our families, my partners side said that we should have only over 18, and my side are saying that it would be inappropriate as me, my sister who is going to be matron of honor and the bestman all have children under 5 and I won't expect them not to bring there children as the bestman's daughter is going to be my flowergirl and my son a pageboy and my sister is immediate family. Also my family discussed this with the rest of the family and they were disgusted.
We are only suggesting at this point nothing is definite. (we weren't expecting my side to say anything yet). I don't want to put on the invitations yet that children are not allow as I do believe that some of the people I wish to invite may not make it, leaving space for the children. I was just wondering would it be appropriate to send out earlier an expression of interest letter, to find out how many guest would be able to come. This will make the choice of venues a whole lot easier.
If you believe that it would be okay to send the expression of interest how would you write it.
Your question was very difficult to decipher, as there were few real sentences and a number of major grammatical errors. Please try to compose your questions carefully so we don't have to spend extra time just trying to understand your question.
We don't send "expression of interest letters" to potential guests. They either are or they are not guests. We allow our guests to decide whether they wish to attend or not. We have many posts concerning this. In fact, we have stated many times that we never include any information on our invitations about who is invited or who is not, especially when it comes to "no children". This information is conveyed by writing the names of those invited on the envelope.
If you include children in your bridal party, it is even more disturbing to your guests that their children are not invited. Plus, all wedding guests, including your bridal party, are invited to the entire reception. So, be careful inviting children to be part of your bridal party and not inviting them to the reception.
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