I am trying to figure out wording on our wedding invitations, but do not know which is the most appropriate way for our situation. It gets a little confusing so I hope you can make sense of it. My parents(I'm the bride) are divorced and both remarried. My father, and stepmother(I guess included by default?) insisted that they want to pay for the event, "it is something they want to do" and have given us a budget up to 10k. My mother is not contributing so much financially, but she did pay for part of my wedding dress, helped in hunting down wedding location and is supporting in many other ways, emotionally etc. Both of my parents live about 3,000 miles away from us, so my fiance and I are doing all of the planning etc as well as contributing financially. On the groom's side, his parents have given us $1000 to put towards the wedding as well, because that is what they are able to contribute. My father told us to hold onto that because he is planning on being able to cover the cost of the whole wedding. So I am stumped on how to word the invitations. We are having a saturday afternoon outdoor wedding. Most of the wording that seems to somewhat fit our situation is way too formal or traditional for our tastes. My fiance and I really like some of invitations worded as 'Together with our families', but do not know if that will be insulting to my father, since he is footing most of the bill,(he is a more traditional guy) However there is a lot more than money that goes into hosting and throwing a wedding, and I feel everyone that contributed should be acknowledged? I would love some help on this one! Thanks!
Weddings by Shayna
WEDDING CONSULTANT
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Re: [crazysun] invitation wording FOB paying for most
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You are right and considerate to recognize the non-monetary contributions of all of the parents. Either list them all by giving each couple a line: Mr. and Mrs. Daddy Smith/Mr. and Mrs. Step-Dad/Mom Jones/and/Mr. and Mrs. In Laws Brown are pleased to announce/request the honour of your presence/etc.
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don't use their names at all (like your suggestion of "Together with their parents"): You are cordially invited to attend the nuptials of.../The honour of you presence is requested/and so on.
If being inclusive is going to offend, exclude all of the names. You could also talk to your father. You may find that he is willing to rise to the occasion and share the spotlight.
Good luck! Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [crazysun] invitation wording FOB paying for most
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Good advice. I completely agree. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
invitation wording FOB paying for most
