We are planning a destination wedding for next year and will expect about 30-50 friends and relatives from different parts of the world to share this time with us. We were first introduced to each other by a mutual friend. Through the years our friendship with this person has cooled down, though she continues to remind us that she was responsible for our meeting. We often spend time with her socially, as we still share many of the same friends. Neither of us is particularly looking forward to sharing this special time with her and by default, her unfriendly significant other.
How can we possibly exclude her without really hurting her feelings and making things awkward for the rest of our group? We're conflicted about this. Cost and numbers aren't really an issue, and we're not sure she would be able to attend even if she were invited. I don't want to make it seem that she would ruin the wedding - in the end it would probably turn out just fine, but we'd really like to be able to have a wedding adventure surrounded by pleasant friends.
Should we go ahead and invite her? Any creative ideas or insights would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help.
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Re: obligated to invite the person who introduced us?
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You should only invite those who are closest to you. However, if you see her quite often and she is part of the same crowd you two engage in, it might be awkward to exclude her. Of course, it is your choice either way. There is no wrong or right here.
If you invite her, you could simply focus on the more pleasant guests. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
obligated to invite the person who introduced us?
