I am the stepmother of a wonderful young lady of 22 yrs who is marrying her high school sweetheart. My husband and I have been married for 19 years, and are helping pay for the wedding.
The problem lies with the mother of the bride. She too was remarried, but is now divorced. Her family (parents, sisters) have been difficult to deal with throughout the years, and have limited my husbands visitations with his daughters, despite several legal interventions.
The wedding invitations were printed, and have listed the grooms parents, mother, and father, with no mention of father's wife. (me) I have a good relationship with the bride, and we have talked many times of the troubles with MOB, and she feel bad, but said she was trying to keep her mother happy since she was divorced again. I told her that I understood, but would like to be mentioned in the engagement announcement and church bulletin. Was that appropriate? My main concern is her happiness- she is afraid of a big explosion at the wedding, and frankly, so am I. However, because we are also contributing a large sum of money for the wedding, I think I should be mentioned as a parent.
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edited by TWQadmin on Jul 3, 2008, 8:19 AM)
You should have been mentioned on the invitation, but not necessarily on the engagement announcement or the church bulletin, except if it is your church. The engagement announcement usually just mentions the biological parents or parental figure. If you helped raise her, then it would be appropriate.
Money doesn't really factor into this except for the invitation. This will probably change very soon, as parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings. So, all contributions are viewed as gifts now.
step mother on wedding invite
