My fiance and I are getting married April 25th, 2009 and we both recently got laid off from work -
We asked his parents if they could help us out with the reception and would pay them back right away after the wedding - they agreed and then his mother found out we invited someone she doesnt like at all - she said she did not want them there and if they were coming she would not go and neither would my fiance's grandmother (which we dont know if that is true or not)
None the less - should we dis invited these people - if so how and what should we say?
If we do not disinvite them we will have to cancel the reception as we do not have enough money to pay for it due to being laid off - please help me with this one
Parents should never give a gift that comes with strings attached, but it is her decision to make.
If I were you, in this jobless situation, I'd cancel the reception and save the money you'll probably need to keep yourselves going until you find new work.
But, if you have deposits down that are non-refundable, perhaps scale the guest list down quite a bit (maybe even including the person your mother doesn't like, as long as this is not someone very close to you). You can host a very nice reception without breaking the bank.
Good luck to the both of you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
It sounds like your fiance should speak to his mother. Parents shouldn't dictate who should or shouldn't be invited or to stomp their feet taking their gift back if they don't get their way. Other than that, it is not polite to disinvite people unless that person has been abusive or hurtful since the invitation was issued, or unless the event is cancelled. Sometimes we do have to scale back though. In this case, (if you do just scale back), it would be best to host a very small affair, so it doesn't appear as if you are just eliminating a small group of people (like saying to them that one group is better than the other).
what should we do?
