wording weding invitations to include parents not hosting
HELP! We are a modern day couple having difficulties with the wording of our wedding invitations. My family (the brides') are helping us out with the majority of wedding costs. My fiances parents are rather unhappily divorced, and the grooms' mother is refusing to attend our wedding at all if her ex-husband attends. The grooms father has offered to only contribute a small amount, mainly to cover his guests, and the grooms' mother is not contributing anything as she won't attend. My father (FOB) is fairly traditional and would prefer for the wording of our invitations to reflect himself and my mother as the hosts, especially as he is pretty much financing the wedding. However, we would like to know what other options would be appropriate. We feel that since the FOG is not really contributing as much it would unfair to include him in invitation wording, and if you include the grooms father is it appropriate to, or not to, include the grooms mothers' name as a host especially when she refuses to attend?! (We both feel it sounds a bit silly to have his mother mentioned on the invitation when she won't be attending and has no interest at all in our upcoming nuptials.) We are in a bit of a pickle as the grooms new step- family wants the FOG's name mentioned on the invitations (more for show!) but we just wanted to check to make sure that the traditional hosts being the parents of the bride is still appropriate in such a circumstance, especially when they are giving us so much and it is our wish for them to be recognized in this way.
Thank you for any advice! I am having a hard time trying to keep things fair and appropriate in regards to good etiquette, as we are keen to avoid upsetting the FOG's family unnecessarily.
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Re: [Candygirl] wording weding invitations to include parents not hosting
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Dear Candygirl,
Since parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings, it seems even more important to recognize them in any way possible. So, it would be best to list the groom's father as co-host. Of course, if the amount is very small, which is extremely difficult to determine what 'small amount would be, then it is your choice to list him or no.
If you choose not to list him as host, you could list his name under your fiance's name as: the son of Mr. John Doe.
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