I hired a DJ with the impression that he would follow our reception sequence. Ever since I sent him the sequence, he has told me that its not going to be effective, i will lose the crowd, my guests will leave, etc, etc. I appreciate his expertise and advice ( I really do); however, isn't it ultimately what we want? I get the feeling that I am throwing a monkey wrench up what he "usually does" and I hope he does not sabotage the wedding b/c he wanted to do it his way..Am I out of line?
Generally, the dj is provided with the sequence of events for the reception. That being said, you should trust that once given the itinerary, the musician employed is experienced enough to know the best way to get the guests excited and active in all the wedding festivities. There are times when we defer to the dj's point of view because we are paying for their expertise.
Best wishes, Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
What concerns me is that your DJ said you "will lose the crowd". Does the DJ specialize in wedding receptions? Make sure that you and the DJ are on the same page. You're hiring the DJ for his/her expertise, but also for their flexibility and their ability to perform in different scenarios.
Make sure that you have a thorough understanding with your DJ. You definitely do not want any surprises that has the potential to ruin your special day.
Have you met with your DJj personally? Initiate some more conversation and express your concerns. Perhaps this DJ is not the best choice, but then again maybe it will cause you to reevaluate what you "think" is right. Not everyone is good at receiving feedback, especially if it differs from what we believe is right. Be honest with yourself. Then make the decision as to how you will proceed. Copen Cabana DJ Audio Visual Production providing Custom Wedding Coffee Table Photo Book with DVD Services http://www.knowareland.com
Thank you for your reply.. The DJ and I had a long conversation via phone last week (we are in different states). We resolved the tension between us after several rounds back and forth in who is the professional versus who is paying you. In short, I told him that I did consider his expertise, but we have to meet in the middle of what WE want and what you think is the best- despite his "uncomfortability" with the sequence and my "view" of what I think is the best. We did figure out a sequence that we are both satisfied. We will meet with him two weeks before the wedding to make sure we are all on the same page... any more tips would be greatly appreciated.. thank you
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