My fiance hates taking pictures. He even gets cranky talking about pictures on the big day. I said, "What about a video of our wedding?" He said he better not see anyone or hear one click. I think it is a good idea to have candid shots, just so he can be at ease. I know he will be happy on our big day, but we are going to have to take some family shots, and he turns into plastic face for posed pictures. Is there anything I can do to help my groom not to be camera shy?
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I've encountered this issue repeatedly as a wedding videographer and what has worked, somewhat, for me is that I point out to the person (sometimes its even brides who get camera shy!) how important the memory of this day will be to their children or even grandchildren to see what mom and dad looked like so many years ago and also I have tried to be as affirming as possible regarding how the person looks on camera. Ultimately, camera-shyness can be worked around by the videographer or photographer and in your case, the emphasis can be on the bride more than the groom. But for the person who has difficulty with the idea of themselves on camera, an emphasis on what it will mean to others will help their perspective tremendously. Hope this helps.
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There are several video companies that provide multiple, unobtrusive, hidden cameras to help capture the memory. The point is not to be secretive, but you could let your guests know that it is being taped remotely, and that they won't have to worry about a videographer walking through the crowd. When recorded with multiple cameras remotely, and then edited, the finished product is something to see.
When people "can't see" the cameras, they soon forget they're being recorded. Once the reception party gets going, and everyone is celebrating, you will be able to capture some wonderful candid moments.
The video is more for your children and grandchildren, a wonderful time capsule capturing a brief moment in time. Even though he may not like being photographed or recorded, perhaps the idea of being able to share the most important day of your lives with his future son or daughter will help him overcome his shyness.
Remember, you don't want to ruin his day either. If he is that upset with the idea, perhaps a heart to heart discussion is in order. Once children come into the picture, there are going to be many times that the photography subject is going to be raised, especially grandparents wanting pictures of BOTH of you with the kids, portrait sittings at the studio, etc.
If you don't have an inexpensive digital camera, perhaps purchasing one together and learning how to use might help dispel some of his shyness. The two of you could take candid photos of each other, and since it's digital, just delete the bad pictures and keep the best. You could use the camera to record getting ready for your wedding, the bridal shower, finding a dress, taking pictures of possible ceremony sites, and choosing which one you like the best, etc. Copen Cabana DJ Audio Visual Production providing Custom Wedding Coffee Table Photo Book with DVD Services http://www.knowareland.com
It sounds like your fiance might have had a bad experience in the past. It's important to know that each videographer has their own style. Some are very prominent, but then again some couples don't mind that. It is our experience that most couples prefer a discreet approach, and that is the way we film. We believe we are there to document the day, not manage it or arrange it like a production.
You need to work with your fiance to find the right company, meet with them and make sure you are both comfortable with them. If you are confident that they will respect your wishes, whatever that may be, then you should not have any problem. It really comes down to planning, as with so many aspects of a successful wedding day. Celebrity Wedding Video
First of all you should strongly suggest to him to take part in choosing a photographer. This will allow him to feel more comfortable with the individual(s) who will be taking the photographs. If he doesn't want to take part in choosing the photographer, then perhaps you should remind him that his lack of involvement with this important choice, could make dealing with photography on the day of the wedding much more difficult. He should go with you to each photographer's appointment/interview. This will allow him to get a feel for the photographer's personality, and learn more about how he/she approaches the day with their camera. A non obtrusive photographer is obviously the goal here. Keep in mind if any family portraits will be wanted, their will have to be some interaction with the photographer.
In knowing the above, your fiance' should also be reminded quite bluntly I might add, that the photographer is simply doing their job. If your fiance' chooses to not smile for a photograper, remind him that the photos are being taken for his parents, extended family, and someday his children. He's not smiling for the photographer, he's doing it for historical record of the day for generations to come. It's not going to harm the photographer one way or another if the groom smiles or not, but sometime down the road, a child or grandchild might ask your husband, "Why do you look so mad in your wedding pictures?" Does he really want this?
Reason with him. That's all you can do.
Good luck!
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I think it is a good idea to have candid shots, just so he can be at ease.
As a wedding videographer I always attend the rehearsal for many reasons. Not only does it allow me to help coordinate placement of the wedding party, and become familiar with the church, but it puts everyone at ease if we all have a chance to meet one another prior to the wedding. _____________________________ Ron Priest Kentucky Wedding Videographer
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