I'm trying to head off a potential problem at the pass. My mother has a long-time boyfriend (they have no plans to ever marry, and he has not been an integral part of my life, although we are polite and cordial toward each other). Am I obligated to have him included when the photographer takes the formal wedding party pics at the end of the ceremony? I am more than willing to allow my mother and him to have one taken of the two of them alone, because I think this would be a nice treat for them, but I would prefer to have only family in the "family" pictures. Can I do this without seeming rude and exclusive?
P.S. - I also posted another query about providing this gentleman with a boutonniere or not - again, I just want to be as appropriate as possible without hurting the feelings of him or my mother. Thank you so much.............
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Nancy Tucker
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Re: [tbear525] Non-family members in formal wedding pictures?
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Dear Tbear,
If the boyfriend has no part in the wedding, he would not be included in the formal wedding party photos, however, when you are doing family pictures that include your mother, unless you want to offend your mother, he would be considered a part of her family. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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Dear Tbear:
It is your choice whether to include your mother's boyfriend in the family photos. You are not obligated to do so but it is sweet of you to consider giving them their own shot. The way to handle this without seeming rude is to discuss the photo list with your photographer in advance. Also, talk with your mother in advance so there is a clear understanding of what is going to happen and you can prevent confusion or hurt feelings at the wedding. She may want to include him anyway.
As for the Boutonniere, the boyfriend would only receive one if he is an active participant in the wedding.
Best wishes,
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Dear Tbear, It might be a good idea to have a few shots with the "boyfriend/family" and also a few shots with just family. That way you can include him but also have just the "family" images for yourself. Most photographers are pretty flexible and would be happy to do this. Best wishes. Christopher Cummings of Poetic Image Photography http://www.poeticimage.biz
Non-family members in formal wedding pictures?
