My fiance and I are getting married this fall. Sometime ago, my sister in law stated to my mother that she wants our photographer to take a picture of her family, including her children. Is this proper, to have one of the wedding guests approach a photographer at someone elses wedding and request that a shot be taken of their entire family?
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Jun 13, 2005, 1:28 PM
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Dear Sis in law problem,
No. This is a first for me. It is best to make it clear to all of your wedding professionals that they only take your requests and no one elses.
Honestly, if I didn't know that this was a real question, I would have thought you were joking about this. Too funny.
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Thank you for your response. No, unfortunately, I wish I was joking. This matter is very much real. My sister in law awhile back told my mother that she wanted a photo taken of her family and children. I wanted to check with a expert, since my fiance and I sat here, scratching our heads. Who would of thought that someone would ever be so bold?
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Jun 13, 2005, 2:27 PM
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I believe it.
Have your groom speak to his sister; don't get involved! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
weddingstress
Jun 13, 2005, 2:28 PM
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ACTUALLY, THIS IS MY SISTER IN LAW. MY BROTHER'S WIFE. ITS A HAIRY SITUATION, IF I DO SAY SO MYSELF. NOT VERY PLEASANT.
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ooo...yes, i see that now. What do you parents make of this wife? Can they help? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
weddingstress
Jun 13, 2005, 2:49 PM
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my parents have tried to remain third party to our requests for our wedding. We recently decided however, that our wedding will be an adults only wedding. Please see my question under wedding ettiquete section.
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Jun 13, 2005, 2:57 PM
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Since it is your sister in law, just go through the photographer and tell him not to take orders from anyone but you. She can ask, but she won't get it.
I'm sorry about the family problem. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jun 16, 2005, 4:29 PM
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I actually was a wedding photographer for 6 years and this is not unusual. Tell the photographer. Their first priority is you, and I used to tell them that as I had a down time I would try to get family photos like that. I would do it without being asked many times.
A great time to take them was between picture time and the ceremony while the couple was "hiding" from arriving guests, especially if the formals are done ahead of schedule. Another great time was at the reception before the bride and groom arrived. Many of the families would use these for Christmas cards or their yearly family photo, it can be very hard to get the whole family dressed up and together for pictures in a busy family.
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Jul 7, 2005, 11:17 AM
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When you hire a photographer they are usually going to provide any shots you request, that can be of your family, her family really anything that you request. When booking a photographer you should go over all shots expected and be sure your photographer can be flexible as needed throughout the event. Congrats on your special day coming up in the fall and the best to you and your Husband to be. Christopher Cummings of Poetic Image Photography http://www.poeticimage.biz
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When you state "my sister in law stated to my mother that she wants our photographer to take a picture of her family, including her children", do you mean that she wants to go to their studio and have it done or have a time set up at the event to have it done?
We shoot digitally. With every wedding event we do, we take candid photos of each couple attending including children, usually at the tables where they are sitting. Quite often, we try to group those who are there together. When people request a picture of just themselves, time permitting (i.e. so as not to miss something important happening with the bride and groom) we oblige. If you're photographer is shooting film, then he or she might not want to do this. Many photographers shooting digitally will take from 700 to 1,500 pictures of an event. It doesn't mean that all those photos will get printed.
We feel it is important to include photos of the guests who attended. If the bride and groom didn't feel they were important, they would not have been invited.
If you're photographer is the type that charges for every move they make, you might consider asking your sister-in-law or brother to pay for his or her time to shoot their picture. If your photographer is being hired for the event and reception and will be wandering around taking candid photos, you might consider discussing the possibility of having him take your brother's family photo during the event with just them in the picture.
Sometimes weddings are the only time when all of one's friends are together in one place at one time. Discuss the possibilities with your photographer and see if they can include photos of your friends as well. Years down the road, you'll be glad you did. Copen Cabana DJ Audio Visual Production providing Custom Wedding Coffee Table Photo Book with DVD Services http://www.knowareland.com
Guest requesting personal photos at my wedding?
