If I have addressed my wedding invitations as "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith," am I required to use titles for my place cards? Can I go with "Jane Smith" and "John Smith" or must I use "Mr. John Smith" and "Mrs. Jane Smith." I have a number of Doctors and Ph.D's attending my reception and it simply seems a bit stuffy to write "Dr. John Smith" on a wedding place card. What if I were to do "John" or "Jane" only on the place cards? Is this considered rude, albeit a bit more personal? It is a formal, evening wedding of 100 guests. What would you recommend?
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May 7, 2007, 12:08 PM
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Re: [bea] Addressing place cards properly- Titles?
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Dear Bea,
If this is very formal, then titles are necessary. But, this isn't one of those 'have to' type of rules, especially in some regions. If you are in the west, we are very casual and first names are fine. If you are in the south or some areas in the east, titles may be expected even if it isn't very formal.
Just go with what feels appropriate for your area and the formality of your event. I'd probably include the titles if it were me (even in California). This is because if place cards are used, it is usually more formal. Plus, you have doctors attending. Many like to see their titles used.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Addressing place cards properly- Titles?
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Dear Rebecca,
Thanks for your response. The wedding is going to be held at a Villa in Italy and family and friends are is coming from all over the world. Some west coasters and some east coasters in the group. I guess we'll go with titles because it seems this way no body will be offended!
Thanks so much for your wonderful forum.
Bea
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May 7, 2007, 2:18 PM
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Re: [bea] Addressing place cards properly- Titles?
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Dear Bea,
Good decision! This is definitely not a time to go casual.
Addressing place cards properly- Titles?
