Hi. I'm engaged to a wonderful man who just happens to be in training for the US Army. The most communication we get is through letters and rare phone calls, so the planning is left up to me, and there are sooo many problems that I don't know how to handle! The biggest one is that I can't set a concrete date for the wedding until my fiance knows the date of his graduation from training and the date he is expected at his post afterwards. And we won't know that until like, maybe 2 months before the fact. We want to get married asap after training in case he gets deployed, but how do I reserve everything that is needed when I can't give the vendors a date until maybe a month before it happens? Until then, all I have to work with is "late april/early may". What do I do?
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Re: Army wife-to-be is completely lost....help!
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Dear KatMar,
This is one of those moments when you will have to make a tough choice. Do you want to wait to have the wedding of your dreams or have a more informal wedding? If you want to wed soon and don't have a set date, then most likely you will have to scale back the guest list and try to find a venue that can be rented at a moment's notice. Perhaps a family member's home would be just right. I have heard that there are rooms on base that can be used for this purpose as well. So, that may be an option.
As long as your guest list is small and only includes those who live close (so they don't have to plan for travel) your other planning issues won't be too much of a problem.
You could also just plan a small family wedding and a larger reception later in the year. As long as you host this within the first year you are fine. But, the longer you wait to host one, the more traditional wedding elements should be avoided--it just doesn't seem right (first dance, wedding attire, etc.).
Army wife-to-be is completely lost....help!
