Asking family to travel to get to wedding ceremony and reception
I have a problem.
Between the Groom and myself (the bride-to-be), we easily have over 400 family members. My family lives on one side of texas, and most of his live on the other side. Some live in other varying states but have traditionally made it to every wedding.
The location of where we have always wanted to actually get married is very near to the grooms family, but not actually in the town of anyone's residence. Everyone would have to travel, in some way or another.
Is it polite/impolite to have a wedding on one day, in one location, and have the reception in another location (for instance, closer to my family since the wedding is close to his) a day or so later? I was thinking the break between would give time for travel accomodations etc, should some family members want to "carpool".
Also the grooms parents offered a reception at their home, should enough of that portion of the family not want to attend the "destination" reception. Do we accept this? Are we under obligation to, etc. There are some guests we would like to invite to the wedding that would not be welcome at his parents' home, hosted directly after the wedding, yet would not be able to travel the five hours to my hometown for the "other" reception. It feels a little rude to say to them "I'm going to one reception you are near to, yet you aren't invited, even though I know you cannot come to the other one."
How can I handle this? Is any of this acceptable? I'm so lost. Thank you.
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Re: [Jess_Plum] Asking family to travel to get to wedding ceremony and reception
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Dear Jess,
It isn't polite to ask your wedding guests to travel a very long distance to a reception. There can be a reception near the wedding location, but all would have to be invited to it.
The way this is usually done, is that there are two receptions and one wedding. All wedding guests are invited to the main reception. So, if there is a reception on site or near, all of the guests would be invited.
Typically, we don't invite all of the family to the wedding. Those guests are invited to the second reception, which is nearest them. Wedding guests can be invited to this one as well.
Asking family to travel to get to wedding ceremony and reception
