Greetings again and thank you in advance for suggestions. I am in the final stages of planning for our big day (10/6...just 24 days left!), and am working on pre and post wedding "small" issues. To give you some context, my fiance and I are gladly paying all costs associated with the wedding, reception and honeymoon. My parents are both deceased, and his don't have the financial means. However, both of our families have indicated a desire to help when needed.
I assure you, I'm VERY appreciative of any help, but I don't want to make anyone feel burdened. I was trying to coordinate things with my fiance like dropping of items needed by the decorator at ceremony and reception location, getting the church put back in order after the ceremony, hauling of any gifts back to our home, returning tux, dealing with our cake topper, etc. In hindsight, I probably should not have scheduled our honeymoon flights the morning after the wedding, but the deed is now done. So I've really no choice but to depend on the kindness of others to assist me.
As previously indicated, we don't burden anyone too much but we really do need help! So my question is, if I create a list of "To Do" would it be too....presumptuous? ...demanding? of me to have a sit down with family members and ask who may be willing to assign their name to a specific task? Or should I just bite the bullet and see if I can hire these duties done?
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I appreciate your thoughtfulness, Katie. Very refreshing indeed!
I think if these people are very close to you, and they have asked if you need help, you can reply with a list of things left to do. Then they can choose to do what they can and not feel overly burdened. You just need to be careful about the approach. From the way you have communicated here, I don;t think that will be an issue for you.
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I completely agree. For my daughter's wedding (very recently) many family members were upset when they found out that we did as much as we did without asking them to assist. They really wanted to help.
The list is a very good idea. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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