Hi, my parents are paying for my entire wedding 30K, for which I am EXTREMELY GREATFUL. I talked to my fiance about us sitting down with his family and asking if they plan on contributing for the rehersal dinner. I thought about asking for maybe $1,000 from them. But my fiance says that they cannot afford that; although, they spent a couple thousand dollars this past summer to go to the bahamas and they spend a lot of money all the time. Our wedding is a little over 1 year away, I thought that they could at least save up some money for our wedding.
Am I wrong to keep pressuring my fiance to sit down with his family and ask, because they don't seem to be volunteering anything because they must be assuming that my "more financial" parents are paying for it? Should I ask them to help with the rehersal? I know that money is a gift nowadays, but I still think we should ask.
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The groom's family is not obligated to host the rehearsal dinner nor to contribute to the wedding. If your fiance says they cannot afford to do so leave it alone and pay for whatever you expected them to pay for yourselves.
The parents are not obligated to pay for your wedding. Their money is theirs to spend as they choose. If they work hard and choose to spend their money on a vacation, and not on their son's wedding, that is their choice to make.
If the groom wants to discuss this with his parents he will. Don't pressure him. However, if you guess that maybe his parents think the bride's parents are responsible to foot the bill, you can suggest that he remind his parents that this notion is antiquated. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. Many, if not, most couples are paying for all of their wedding costs these days. So, to expect parents to cover all of the costs seems a bit unrealistic. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Asking grooms family to contribute to the wedding
