Hi, I am new here so bear with me! I wasn't sure exactly what category to post this under but here it goes. I am 21 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years (known him for four). We had it planned to get married in 2007 but there are 3 weddings on each side already that summer plus his family is flying across Canada to visit all the family in our town in 2006 anyways, so we figured we would try for end of summer 2006. However we are renting right now and the cost is dragging us down (among other things) so we need to buy a house by the end of next summer as well. His side is very small but my side alone is the size of an average wedding. My mom, my dad and my biological father's side. Can I have a 'big' wedding as far as lots of people but somehow have the rest a 'small, simple' wedding? I thought of not having a dinner, just having an appetizer table around 7pm then dessert around 10pm, could this work? I am the oldest of seven children. I have places for all of my siblings in the wedding except my 11 year old brother. My stepdad will be giving me away, could it work if I have my brother on my other arm? My real dad has NEVER been a part of my life, he lived in England and worked in Africa until a few months ago he moved only an hour away and has been in my life. How can I include him in my wedding without taking away from my stepdad who has been more of a dad to me my whole life? Also, my good friend growing up assumed she was the maid of honor when I had decided on another friend and already asked her. How can I possibly tell her she isn't my MOH? I am worried that she will make a scene at my wedding (she is quite obnoxious and rude) but if I don't invite her she will never speak to me again. I have basically everything planned, its just a few quirks I don't know how to deal with. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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Re: [youngbride] Big wedding planning vs. small wedding
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Dear End of Summer Wedding,
Everyone you invite to your wedding must be invited to your reception. So, plan on this. Plus the formality of the wedding and reception should be the same if the reception follows the wedding.
The food that you serve should reflect the time of day and the formality of your event. Your guests will expect a meal if you host an evening reception, especially with it continuing until 10pm. Choose a time where people do not expect to be fed an entire meal. 10-11 am, 1-3 pm usually work well for this.
As for your 11 year old brother. He could hand out the wedding programs. He may appear young to be escorting you, plus is could take away from your stepfather. But, this is a personal decision.
Your biological father could stand as the officiate asks who supports this young lady. Both fathers (and your mother if you wish) could state, "We do." He should sit in the third row unless your mother has no problem with him sitting with her and your stepfather in the first row.
If you don't want your biological father speaking, you could just mention him in your wedding programs.
As for your friend, this is a very personal issue. Only you will know the right time and the right verbiage to use. I would suggest telling her soon though. It should make it easier for her to 'get over it' and hopefully not make a scene.
Big wedding planning vs. small wedding
