know what the proper etiquette is regarding the following:
1) If the parents of the bride are willing to pay for the engagement party, how much say should I have as to how many people I can invite?
2) My son & his fiancee are paying for the wedding and we are paying for the honeymoon. As the mother of the groom, what do you see as our additional obligations in this matter.
1) If the parents of the bride are willing to pay for the engagement party, how much say should I have as to how many people I can invite?
The hosts of the party invite the guests. You do not invite anyone. You may host a party of your own at a different time and invite anyone you wish.
2) My son & his fiancee are paying for the wedding and we are paying for the honeymoon. As the mother of the groom, what do you see as our additional obligations in this matter.
You are very gracious and generous to offer to pay for the honeymoon. These days the monetary obligations are optional. There are the traditional obligations, but few are being observed because so many young people have careers and make their own money. Plus, many are waiting longer to marry.
Traditionally, you would be also paying for the flowers, liquor and music at the reception, and the officiant of the wedding. If there are transporation costs to the wedding, the groom's parents traditionally paid for that too.
This is rare these days.
3) The wedding is planned for May of 2006.
In some areas, couple do plan for more than a year ahead of the wedding date because it may take that much time to schedule a wedding site. So, this isn't that strange.
Engagement & Wedding Etiquette
