My fiance and I will be getting married in a year. My mother and maternal grandmother have been so openly negative my fiance and I are considering getting married in a small private wedding with friends only or in the carribean, just the two of us. Would it be appropriate to have seperate parties afterward even though our families live in the same city? If so, how would the announcements (engagement and ceremony), invitations (shower and reception), and what-not be handled?
I don't want a lifelong battle between our families to start because of something that was said or done relating to our wedding. This has happened before in my family as well as my fiance's. It's repulsive and we are hoping to avoid it for our future children's sake.
Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower, which you wouldn't be involved in any way. So, this probably won't take place.
The engagement only needs to be announced in the paper, if you want it announced. This isn't announced by card. It may appear as a plea for gifts. The wedding isn't announced to anyone who is invited to a reception. Then you would use the typical announcement.
You may have separate receptions if you feel that some family members may be combative. But, this is supposed to be a time to bring the two families together.
The invitations for the receptions could be the same for both events. It would be the typical wedding reception invitations. No mention of the wedding is necessary because your guests will know of the wedding by the time they receive the invitation--no brainer.
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