My fiance is opposed to spending any money on a photographer/videographer, he feels that they are a huge waste of money. His friends have convinced him that we will never watch the video, or look at the photos. I really want both and although we are both paying for this wedding on our own, I am willing to put in more money to have what I want. My friends have told me that I must give in and allow him this one concession (I've controlled the whole wedding process up to now) but it's something I am not willing to give up.
Any suggestions on how we both can win- and save this upcoming wedding?
TWQadmin
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It sounds as though you're having a good discussion about this, so that's a good start. Keep letting him know the reasons you want to record your day. Mentioning children, if you've decide to have a family, might be a good place to start. Also, it's a sad fact, but people move away and even die. While we don't like to think about being without our loved ones, it is a fact of life.
I was widowed 3 years after I was married and, although we did have a professional photographer (thankfully) we did not have video. I sure wish we did so my kids could get a good idea about what their father (and other relatives/friends) was like. The photographs are a treasured memory.
Hope I didn't bring you down too much but hope my perspective helps your cause. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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CapturedArt
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I agree with the TWQ Mod, the fact that you are having an open discussion is a great start. If you are both firmly set in what you want then the only win win option left is a compromise. You want a photographer or videographer and he doesn't want to spend a large amount of money on one so you'll have to meet in the middle.
First, if you want a professional photographer or videographer but can't afford to hire them for the entire event ask them if they can work something out with you for just a couple of hours. In this economy businesses are more than willing to think outside the box to generate extra income.
Secondly, if you want someone for the entire event but can't afford a professional photographer look to budding photographers. We all had to start somewhere and there are some real gems out there. One great resource is the local college. Call them up and get in touch with the photography or videography department. Let a professor know what you are looking for and they should have a couple of promising students in mind who would love to build their portfolio while helping you out. In some cases you might even be able to trade experience for images or video on a DVD without any out of pocket expense.
Thirdly, you can always go the route of handing out disposable cameras to your guests and then collecting them at the end. I would suggest do this in conjunction with one of the other options but in some weddings it has generated some surprising results.
Whatever you chose, remember that a good marriage is built off of compromises. You'll both need to give and take in order to make the wedding day a success.
Fiance and I disagree on wedding video/pictures
