I hope I am posting this in the right place. I am sorry if I am not.
My fiance and I are both 25 years old and this will be our first wedding for either of us. Neither of us have ever been to a wedding before, so we are completely clueless on what to expect. We do have a couple ideas for weddings and one we both really like. We both would like to get married at the Texas Renaissance Festival in mid-October of 2010. Aside form the wedding ceremony itself and the reception, what else do we need to think about? Who will be paying for what? The more I read about weddings, the more it seems the bride and groom are supposed to pay for every little thing, especially if people have to travel to come to the wedding. We both live in Texas and would have family coming from California, Tennessee, Alabama, and Virginia. Are we expected to pay for their travel and lodgings? What about gifts and favors for them?
My main concern with paying for most of, if not all of, our wedding is that we don't make much money and have trouble saving up large sums. I know that if we had too, we could have a much smaller backyard style wedding. We live in an apartment though, so we'd be using someone else's backyard. It also seems that no matter what we plan, all of our friends and family that we want invited will be traveling to get to the wedding. I know another option for moneys' sake is to get married alone or with very few people present at the court house, or even elope. We both want certain friends and family present though. This is all even without considering a honeymoon! I feel like we are stuck between a very hard place and a mountain! Another issue is that I have both my parents while he only has his mother. His father passed suddenly this past year. What traditions will we have to amend or even forego for that reason alone?
Long story short, we have no clue what to expect. The more I read, the more confused and worried I get. Can anyone help get me started in a good direction? I know I will have to consider one issue at a time, but it is hard not to get things jumbled in my mind sometimes. I'm beginning to feel buries before I even started solidly planning anything!
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Re: [AmaraLokiFire] First Wedding = Lots Of Questions!
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I see you have lots of questions. The first thing you should do is to get a good wedding etiquette book. Take some time to read through the books. Then, if you still have questions you can come back and post them, one at a time, in the appropriate forum. Be sure that you have read all the rules so that your questions get posted and answered.
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First Wedding = Lots Of Planning Questions!
