My son is getting married on his brother's anniversary (11 year). It was the only open day for their church and he didn't realize it would create such a problem. Brother's wife is very upset, stating that that is "their" sacred wedding day and no way should he get married on their day. She is also refusing to even go to the wedding unless he changes the day. And I am afraid she is also going to try to prevent her husband from attending. I feel he is being placed in a no win situation. It will be very hard to change the wedding date now and even if they could it will still leave hurt feelings. So far the bride hasn't been told hoping we can sort this out and prevent any hard feelings with the new in-laws. My sons have a great relationship but I feel like this is going to tear it apart. I feel she is out of line as does everyone else in the family. I have never been one to be combative but should I support my youngest son's right to pick his own wedding date or am I being wrong? Or is she right? She says people just don't get married on immediate family members anniversaries. Thanks, Sue
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Feb 13, 2006, 2:42 PM
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Oh gosh, tell her to grow up and get over herself.
The wedding anniversary date will still be theirs and they can celebrate as usual. Very rarely do we share our anniversaries and have parties with other people.
This new bride and groom shouldn't have to make their plans around others, unless it is another family wedding.
I would let the brothers discuss it and come to their natural conclusion. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Feb 13, 2006, 2:58 PM
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I agree. If it were me, I would think that 'my' date is now even more special.
I really can't imagine others close to me deciding their wedding date around mine.
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I am getting married October 14, 2006 and and this will be my Brother and Sister-in-laws 11th Wedding Aniversary! They were both so honored to share there date with me. We are going to have a special dance for them and us at the wedding to of there wedding song. We have also asked them to go o our hony moon with us. We are going on a western Carribiean Cruise and has also asked other to go. My siste-in-law is also in my wedding party and I was in hers 11 years ago.
I think your daughter-in-law is being very selfish. She needs to relax and have a great time like she did at her wedding.
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Feb 28, 2006, 11:55 AM
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We do appreciate your position but only experts are to reply to posts. Thanks! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Getting married on brother's anniversary
