We are recently engaged and planning our wedding. My fiancé is 37 (9 years older than me) and it is a 1st marriage for both of us. I would prefer a smaller wedding with a 200 guest max list, however my fiancé’s list is over 300. We have tried reducing the list many many times and although I have cut my down to under 100, his guest list is still around 300. Since he feels it is necessary to have the extra 200 people from his side, he is okay with paying for those extra guests, however he feels that he should keep any gifts/money that his guests give to him. I felt this was really odd since a wedding is celebrating us as a couple. Should I feel offended? How should I deal with this?
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That would be a huge red flag for me for many reasons. As you mentioned, this is about the two of you as a couple - celebrating your love and commitment to one another. It also disturbs me because he seems focused on gits and money. You mentioned that you are each paying for your own guests. My suggestion is to put this on hold and get some counseling before you move ahead. marriage is supposed to be for life, which can be a very long time if you're already having doubts.
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Thank you for your help and advice.
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To be honest, I completely agree and was disturbed while reading it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Groom wants gifts from his guests
