My fiancé and I are in the beginning stages of planning our wedding. As we are paying for the wedding ourselves, we have been discussing our possible guest list in order to determine our budget. We already know that the number of guests can not exceed 100 due to site limitations. We are already at 102 possible guests. Clearly they will not all come but I need to know how to exclude certain people, specifically a family member’s disliked significant other.
My family is very complicated. My biggest concern revolves around one of my uncles.
Growing up I was very close to him, his wife, and their 2 daughters. They have since divorced. I still am extremely close to my aunt and cousins who are like sisters to me. I want to invite them all to my wedding as they are all very important.
The catch is I do not want to invite my uncle’s girlfriend. I personally do not like her.
I am concerned that if I invite all my other aunts and uncles but not that uncle - he will be hurt. But I know that if he comes he will want to bring his girlfriend and I fear that her mere presence may cause a scene.
In a perfect word I would like my uncle, my aunt, and my cousins to be in attendance but I don’t see how I can exclude a significant other even though I truly do not want her to be there. The bottom line is how can I make this work??
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Before we take the time to answer,are you sure you want to post so much personal information in a public forum. Remember, once posted and answered, we cannot remove the information. You might want to edit your post to give us enough info to answer but less details. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I did not feel anything I wrote was too personal as I excluded names, places, and so on. I even had my fiance read it prior to posting and he felt it was fine. But if you feel it is inappropriate it I can remove the information in the post.
I have accepted the quirks of my family and learning that I can not control the behavior of others. I am not ashamed by their prior actions as I had no hand in creating them. I just want to find a way to make this work so that those I care about can be present and leave with happy memories of a day that is very important to me.
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Dear Shalimarmandy,
We always invite the significant others of our guests. So, if you invite your uncle, you would be expected to invite his girlfriend. You could speak to him to let him know why you are not inviting him. That might make him feel a bit better. Or, you could keep your wedding smaller and not invite any aunts or uncles. This is done often, as we often don't have the resources to host larger events.
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