Hi, any feedback on this will be GREATFULLY received.....
I have been engaged to my 'other half', Rob for nearly 3 1/2 years....I am desperate to set the date of the wedding, and having discussed it at length we have decided on Mid October 2005 (5 years after we first met ....aww!) the reason we have had such a long engagement is for financial reasons and also family issues....
*I am a student studying nursing at the min and am struggling to survive on a student loan so we can't afford to get married at the min.
*The main reason....and the reason for writing this is that I have had a few problems with my family accepting my fiancé...firstly they were totally against us being together as Rob is nearly 12 years older than me, and I have had loads of arguments with my mum about this and she just "doesn't like him"....anyways things were horrible at one point with us not talking and mum and me crying all the time....now, things are good again - but I need to broach the subject of the wedding with the parents...any suggestions? I really don't think I could cope with things going back to how they were. I love my fiancé dearly and am 100% blissfully happy and so in love with him. When we do marry in Oct 2005, I will have a degree in adult nursing, (hopefully have a secure job) and we already live together in a 3 bedroomed house....so my parents can have no issues on that front.
I have already spoken to other family members about this issue and they all say that I should tell the parents asap...but i just don't know how to do it without things going back to how they were.Help!!!!
Love, Beth xxxxxx
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Relax! Your mother may be upset at what has gone on in the past between you - and things she has said about your fiance. But you both have now been together for sometime and she must be aware about what is on the cards - a wedding. You have shown the world you are a couple, so don't wait another moment to tell you parents about your plans. Congratulations too on your studying. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
I understand your troubled-self. My parents had/have reservations about my fiance. I was worried about telling them about our [soon] approaching plan to marry soooo for the past several visits with the family I have filled my purse, beachbag and pockets with bridal magazines and church bulletins. "AT LAST" they approached me, after digesting my subtle hints, and the result was awe-some! I found out that my parents want to remain a part of my - our - life and have only expressed their hesitation because they love me so freakin much. My response? WELL... for the LOVE of PEACE... Let the PLANNING BEGIN!
Good luck.
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
That's wonderful news - thank you for letting us share in it. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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