My cousin set her date for early Nov 07 a year in advance. I just became engaged and would like to plan for Sept 8 07 rather than waiting through the winter for spring (bad weather, just don't need a year to plan). This date also works very well for my groom's family. My cousin and I have about 10 relatives in common who would travel from out of town.
She is concerned that our family might choose only one wedding (mine) while I think they'll either come to both or choose hers since they are closer to her and have their travel plans set already. She's also concerned about scheduling her bridal shower (which is tentatively been planned for that same date).
I want to work this out with her - I think there is enough room for both of us to have wonderful days. Plus I want a giftless shower so hopefully that will help ease the burden. Your advice?
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Re: [anon9] How far apart should 2 cousins plan wedding?
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Dear Anon,
There really is no magic amount of days for us to consider when planning the weddings of family and friends. So, we just try to do what is fair for all. In my opinion two months in between the events is fair. You have nearly that amount now. And, your wish for a gift-less shower (thank you) makes this even better--less expensive for shared guests.
If I was a family member and could only attend one wedding, I would do as you have assumed and choose the event hosted for the person I was closest to. It probably won't be an issue, especially because there are so few shared guests.
How far apart should 2 cousins plan wedding?
