I recently got engaged and both of our parents are happy and excited by the news.
I am very close to my mother and my step-father. However, I feel reluctant to ask them if, or what, they plan on contributing to the wedding. My mom makes comments that make it seem like she and my step-father plan on contributing a generous portion; I just don't know anything definite.
I would like to begin looking for a church and a reception hall, but I feel like I should have an idea of what our parents plan on doing. How do I bring up this question without seeming rude or needy? I would never take advantage of their generousity.
I've never been the type of person to ask for money. I've always been able to do everything without charity from others. However, with the size of my fiancee's family, this would a more costly wedding than he and I could (or should) be able to afford.
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Re: [wittemak] How to Discuss Wedding Costs with Parents
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Dear Wittemak,
It is best not to expect anything and adjust your guest list for the amount of people you can comfortably host. If your parents or his (as the bride's parents are not financially responsible anymore) want to contribute, they will speak up, especially when you begin to discuss your plans. If they don't speak up, they probably just want to give you a nice wedding gift.
When your fiance realizes that he is equally responsible to finance his wedding, he will join you in cutting the list. Not all of the family needs to be invited.
How to Discuss Wedding Costs with Parents
