I live in Arizona, my mother is in Missouri, and my sister (matron of honor) is in Texas. My wedding will take place in Arizona. My mother will be here the week before the wedding to help, my sister is not yet sure when she's arriving. This is my problem:
I've been doing all of the planning up to this point on my own, partly because my family isn't here and partly because I'm quite independent and am used to doing things on my own. I've pretty much planned the whole wedding without much difficulty. The wedding is 2 months away, so the major planning is done. I am, however, getting the impression that my mother and sister feel left out. My mom helped me pick out my dress and we'll shop for her dress together. My sister is handling the ordering of the bridesmaid dresses. My mom has volunteered to prepare the veggie and fruit trays for the reception and I've given her the go-ahead to do so. When my sister married, she was the type of bride who wanted help and input from her bridesmaids on every aspect of the wedding...I'm (obviously) not that way. Sis has made several comments such as "Well, don't you want me to do ANYTHING??"
I don't want mom and sis to be stressed out the week of the wedding by trying to frantically finish things. It would stress me out to have them stressed out...(Does that make any sense at all??) On the flip side, I don't want them to feel like they're missing out on the experience because I haven't asked them to help. Any suggestions as to what I can have them take part in that would make them more involved? Thanks!
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That's the problem...most things are taken care of. I guess I'm thinking of having them help with the corsages, wrapping the wedding favors, and decorating the reception hall and sanctuary. I think that would be enough?
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Karey,
Your mother will be with you the week before the wedding and you will be very surprised at how helpful it will be to have her there, just let her know you can't wait for her to get there to help you and she'll feel better about it. As you get closer you can start a list of things you need to do that week and assign her to some of them...relax and enjoy. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com and http://www.coordinatorscorner.com
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Absolutely! And, your mother and sister will be your emotional support. Because you have finished so much already, all of you will have more time to talk. That makes all of us feel special.
I think my mother feels left out...
On the flip side, I don't want them to feel like they're missing out on the experience because I haven't asked them to help. Any suggestions as to what I can have them take part in that would make them more involved? Thanks! 
