I just got engaged and started to plan our wedding. As the books and websites suggest, I asked both my future mother-in-law and mother to give me their lists so we coiuld get a rough idea to pick a venue....without including the majority of my own friends, we are up to 300+ guests invited! This is way too big, but it's mostly family who "need to be invited." My mom has 10 siblings (with spouses, kids, etc.), and my fiance is also from a big Catholic family. Do we just suck it up and have a huge party? I'm 37 and have collected a lot of friends over the years.
Thanks for any advice you can give.
expertplanner
BRIDAL CONSULTANT
Aug 17, 2005, 9:01 AM
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Re: [atikimmel] Invitation list is too big - how do we cut it?
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Actually, the way the list is divied up is like this. If you want to invite 300 people, then you, your Fiance, his family and your family only get to invite 75 guests each. So the question here is how many guests, in relation to your budget, can you invite and afford? Included in that estimate is your wedding party.
Remember that while you are allowing the families to take part inviting people to the wedding, you still should be able to have the people who are most close to you in attendance. Therefore, you really need to get a handle on the guest list, and the rules surrounding it, tactfully. That means you need to establish what will govern the list.
Normally, when deciding to invite guests, we invite immediate family members, their spouses, and close friends first. Dependent on that number, we may move to extended family members we are close to or see on a regular basis. Then we move on to active business associates, and so on.
Best wishes, Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Invitation list is too big - how do we cut it?
