Inviting a friend of my fiance's who I do not like.
My fiance has 3 brothers. I used to have a friend who is one of my future brother-in-law's girlfriend. She's not my friend anymore since she spread untrue rumors about me. I confronted her and I went to her house and spoke to her mother (she is a minor) and her mother didn't believe me. I just told her I was sorry if i ever offended her in any way. She never appologized but still I left that house with my mind in peace and I appologized even though I had never done anything to her! But up until today she still spreads rumors about me!! I felt sorry for her because she didn't have friends. The way I can probably describ her is that she is very envious of everybody and she likes to hurt people's feelings. She always has something negative to say about everybody and nobody is nice. Well, since my weddding to her boyfriend;s brother is coming up I don't know if I should invite her to my wedding. My boyfriend doesn't have problems with her because he says she is just a little girl (that's how he sees her) but that little girl is super mean and I'm afraid that she might try to do something to ruin the wedding. I know that if I invite her I'm not going to be able to enjoy my wedding as much because her presence makes me feel intimidated. I don't know what to do. I'm only breaking my head over this because of my fiance other than that that girl would of been history a long time ago. P.S. she also turned my fiance's brothers against me! Help. What do I do?
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Re: [rosa_hdz_808] Inviting a friend of my fiance's who I do not like.
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Dear Intimidated,
Proper etiquette would have you invite her because she is the girlfriend of your future brother in law. But, if she has been harassing you, this would be good reason to not invite her.
However, this is a personal decision. None of us can make this decision for you.
Not inviting her would be noticed by the entire family because all others in a relationship would be afforded a guest. So, it may be best to ask your fiance to discuss this with his brother, telling him your side of this issue and how frightened you are about her behavior.
Re: [rosa_hdz_808] Inviting a friend of my fiance's who I do not like.
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I agree with rebecca. Many time throughout your post you used the words my wedding. This is really your wedding, you and your fiance. He should be a part of the planning. This discussion will be good practice for dealing with marital issues later on - which all married couples need to work out. I'm sure he knows your concerns and, as Rebecca suggested, your fiance might be able to ask his brother to keep his girlfriend on her best behavior. If you do decide to invite her, and ash does something embarassing, remember, she'll only be embarassing herself by showing her obvious immaturity. Be above her and ignore her words.
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Inviting a friend of my fiance's who I do not like.
My fiance has 3 brothers. I used to have a friend who is one of my future brother-in-law's girlfriend. She's not my friend anymore since she spread untrue rumors about me. I confronted her and I went to her house and spoke to her mother (she is a minor) and her mother didn't believe me. I just told her I was sorry if i ever offended her in any way. She never appologized but still I left that house with my mind in peace and I appologized even though I had never done anything to her! But up until today she still spreads rumors about me!! I felt sorry for her because she didn't have friends. The way I can probably describ her is that she is very envious of everybody and she likes to hurt people's feelings. She always has something negative to say about everybody and nobody is nice. Well, since my weddding to her boyfriend;s brother is coming up I don't know if I should invite her to my wedding. My boyfriend doesn't have problems with her because he says she is just a little girl (that's how he sees her) but that little girl is super mean and I'm afraid that she might try to do something to ruin the wedding. I know that if I invite her I'm not going to be able to enjoy my wedding as much because her presence makes me feel intimidated. I don't know what to do. I'm only breaking my head over this because of my fiance other than that that girl would of been history a long time ago. P.S. she also turned my fiance's brothers against me! Help. What do I do? 
