Okay, so my whole post just got deleted. I will make this one short and to the point.
We're having problems with children on the guest list. My family is from out of state, so I think it is fair for them to bring their children (6 total, only 2 under the age of 8). My fiance has met them several times and we see them at least twice a year.
My fiance's mother compiled a guest list of 350 which we eventually got down to 150 (seeing as our MAX is 300 total). On this list are my fiance's counsins who he has not seen in at least 6 years, and who I never even knew existed. The cousins are really not the issue, however their children (12 total, all under the age of 6) are also included on this list. Neither my fiance or I have met these children, or once again, even heard of them before this list.
Is it wrong for me not to include his cousins' children, but to include mine? He could care less, seeing as he does not know them. How would I word that on our invitations? Something to the extent of, "this is an adult celebration."
Also, my fiance's friends wives are all either pregnant or have newborns. There are 7 girls total. They told me how excited they are to dress their children for our wedding, even though I never mentioned inviting children. That put me in quite an akward position. My concern is that they will get all of the attention with these newborns when it is our day. Also, I would hate for his friends to all have to leave early in order to get their children to bed on time. I know my fiance would be disappointed.
Should I tell these girls soon, or just let then make arrangements when they receive the invitation? This still gives them a month and a half to find a babysitter.
Thank you for your time and knowledge!
-I really do love babies!!
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Re: [Anne02] Inviting children to the wedding?
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Dear Anne,
As parents are not financially responsible for their children's weddings these days, they are also not inviting. You are not obligated to invite any of these guests. But, I caution you about inviting some children and not others, even though you are the host and can invite anyone you wish.
Parents are very attached to their children. When they see that some children were invited and theirs weren't they are most often insulted. Plus, many parents these days just feel 'entitled' to bring their children even if they aren't invited, which has been foreshadowed for you with your fiance's friend's remarks.
You would list only those invited to your wedding on the envelope.
We never write that it is an 'adult event' or 'no children please'. It is considered impolite.
We have very many posts concerning this issue. It may be best for you to read them before planning.
Inviting children to the wedding?
