I've got a strange problem. My mother wants to do something to help me out with the wedding. I would love for her to help out (she's unemployed right now and can't give money or a gift) but I can't think of anything she could do? Maybe I'm not looking far enough into the future on this, but I'm trying to find a way for my mom to give me a hand on something. At this point the apparel, flowers, food, transportation, photography and music are taken care of. I feel like I might be over looking a thing she could very well take care of. Any suggestions?
Lost in Lorain
expertplanner
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Aug 4, 2005, 4:35 PM
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Dear Lost in Lorain:
What about the invitations? She could assist with the RSVP tracking and management. Or how about the music for the ceremony and reception? Is it selected already? If not, she can take her lead from you and begin trying to find the perfect music. What about your cake cutting set? Or unity candle(s)? (if applicable) She doesn't have to buy them but she can look for you, if you don't have them already.
These are just a few suggestions. But I do hope they help you to get thinking.
Best wishes, Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
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Aug 4, 2005, 4:43 PM
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Dear Lost in Lorain,
This is so sweet of both of you. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your mother, which is so important.
You don't have to ask for anything but time and love. You could go to her with your problems like most daughters do at one time or another. Believe me, most moms love it when their children need their advice. We want to feel needed and important in our child's life. It is better than chocolate if that is possible.
You could ask her to help you with decisions even if you already know what you are going to do. Only give her the choices you have decided upon so she will give you the answer you want. This way you won't have to alter your plans.
She could also be there with you on the day if that is possible--helping with the last minute details.
Just keeping her in the loop will help her feel as if she is a part of this and contributing.
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Thank you both for your wonderful suggestions! I called my mom up last night and we came up with a few things she could help me with. She loves pictures and photographs so I asked her to find a photo album for our wedding pictures, and she's researching restaurants for our out-of-town guests to grab brunch the next morning. I want to thank you ladies again for the terrific advice
Lost in Lorain
I've got a strange problem. My mother wants to do something to help me out with the wedding. I would love for her to help out (she's unemployed right now and can't give money or a gift) but I can't think of anything she could do? Maybe I'm not looking far enough into the future on this, but I'm trying to find a way for my mom to give me a hand on something. At this point the apparel, flowers, food, transportation, photography and music are taken care of. I feel like I might be over looking a thing she could very well take care of. Any suggestions?
Thank you both for your wonderful suggestions! I called my mom up last night and we came up with a few things she could help me with. She loves pictures and photographs so I asked her to find a photo album for our wedding pictures, and she's researching restaurants for our out-of-town guests to grab brunch the next morning. I want to thank you ladies again for the terrific advice 
