Married now at city hall then married again a year later?
My fiance and I had set up our wedding to be October 21 of this year, but we had a death on the family and the plans have changed. he really wants to get married so I suggested to him that we could get married this year at city hall and next year have the religoius wedding and big reception. I was thinking that maybe we can have a bbq so we can have a wedding cake and invite close friends. What do you think about this???
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I am sorry for your loss.
Once you are married at city hall you are already married so another wedding would not be appropriate. You could have a blessing of your marriage with a reception to follow but this would be different from a wedding. It would be treated as a vow renewal so to be sure that your service and party to follow is viewed positively please review the following for more information on vow renewal etiquette.
Of course, you can still simply postpone the wedding and have the service and reception you originally planned. True love should stand the test of time. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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prieta1969
Mar 30, 2006, 8:36 AM
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Thank you for your response. But the problem is my family dad and brothers are in Puerto Rico and we can not afford to bring my dad down this year. He really wants to give me away in church (I am the only girl) At the same time my fiance wants to get married this year. So I am on a bind. I didnt know that we could not have the church wedding after we were married at city hall. What other suggestions you have. PLEASE HELPPPPP!!!!!
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Can you go TO your father in Puerto Rico and have the wedding there?
I'm afraid that once you are married there really isn't much you can do except a vow renewal of a blessing of your marriage that already took place.
Imagine receiving a wedding invitation for a couple you know are already married. Pretty confusing - plus - we get many complaints on the forum from guests who receive these kinds of invitations because they feel it is an attempt at a gift grab. I'm sure that is not what you are planning but it may be how it is perceived.
You and your fiance must discuss this and choose what is the most important issue for the two of you - to be married right away or to have your father present to escort you down the aisle. This will be a good opportunity for you, as a couple, to learn to compromise. Communication is a fine art; one that needs practice and nurturing. Both communication and compromise are terrific tools to sharpen to make a lasting, happy marriage.
Good luck! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
prieta1969
Mar 30, 2006, 9:08 AM
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Thank you so much that was helpfull. Unfortunately we cant get married out there because i have two daughters and their father would not let me take them out there. How about if we get married @ city hall just with my daughters and dont have a party would that work or is it still the same. Im so confussssssss! Sorry to be such a pain.
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You can have your service at city hall and have a party after. That is not the issue. The issue is doing that and then in a year from now having another wedding.
These are your options:
1. Have your city hall wedding now - with or without the party or reception after. Obviously your father would not be able to attend.
2. Wait until your father can come to this country to have the church wedding with your father walking you down the aisle and the reception afterwards.
You just cannot have two weddings. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 30, 2006, 10:17 AM
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Re: [prieta1969] Married now at city hall then married again a year later?
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Very well said. From an etiquette point of view, I couldn't have said it better. More great advice, Wedding Queen. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
prieta1969
Mar 30, 2006, 11:29 AM
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thank you both so much for your advice. I now have ideas on what to do. Keep up the good work. Thanks again
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