My daughter became engaged on Jan. 23, 2007. The wedding is planned for April 5, 2008. Her fiance is an only child with a mother who had planned on another bride for her son's wedding. She was very rude and cruel to my daughter for the first year they were dating. The groom's dad is a delight and has apologized for his wife's behavior to my daughter time and time again. The groom stands with my daughter and has more or less told his mother that she will not be a part of his life if she continues this behavior. She only became half-way civil when the girl of her dreams became engaged to someone else a month or so ago.
I read somewhere that it is the responsibility of the groom's mother to initiate contact with the bride's parents. I don't see that happening. I don't want to send out an unwanted invitation to a woman I'm not wild about meeting in the first place. My husband met her one day when he and my future son-in-law ran into her. She was very rude and just introduced herself and shook my husband's hand and kept walking. Her sister was with her and stayed and chatted with them while the groom's mother sat in their parked car.
I know there will be showers, would it be tacky to meet her when I have to?
I know just what you mean - this can be a difficult situation. But, just be the bigger person. If you'd like to invite them so you can meet then do it. Let her decide to decline or not. If she shows, just smile and set a good example. If she misbehaves then you can say you tried - then punch a pillow or have a deep margarita when she's gone. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I agree. If you want to initiate an invitation, it could be for a short cup of coffee at a coffee house. It doesn't even have to be at your home. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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