My daughter just got engaged at age 23. She and her fiance have lived in Seattle for almost six years while going to school. During that time, they developed a lot of close friendships in a church they were involved in. They really want to have their wedding there.
We, her parents, live in the midwest. She grew up in the city we live in and we have many relationships here. The church we attend is also a close community to us and a lot of people at this church know and love our daughter. We would very much like to have the wedding here. We have suggested a wedding here and second reception in Seattle. She has suggested just the opposite.
Also, my daughter grew up with her grandmother living in the house and she is unable to travel to Seattle and it would very much dissapoint her to not be able to attend the wedding.
One final note, her fiance's family lives within about six hours of Seattle. Most of our family lives within about the same distance from our house in the midwest.
What should we do? Should we insist on a wedding here or give in to her desire?
Thank you so much.
expertplanner
BRIDAL CONSULTANT
Jan 7, 2007, 11:21 AM
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This is your daughter's wedding. Gone are the days where mothers told their daughters how to plan. Even if you were/are providing financial support, the final decision still would fall to her/them. Therefore, while she should consider your feelings because you are her mother, ultimately, it boils down to what she and her groom-to-be feels is right for them. So, you should just support whatever her decision is going to be. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
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Jan 7, 2007, 2:43 PM
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Absolutely! I completely agree.
A second reception in your home town with a video playing of the wedding in the background would be a great idea. But, of course, the couple would have the last say. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Waymac99
Jan 7, 2007, 2:49 PM
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To both of you. Thank you very much. We will have the wedding in Seattle and a nice reception in our hometown.
Mother Daughter Conflict over Location
